Get a Marriage Course Specific for Your Enneagram Types
Becoming Us is a self-paced, online curriculum tailored for your Enneagram Type combination. It’s designed to help you and your partner align your marriage with the hope and truth of the Gospel, so you can grow together to build the thriving relationship of your dreams.
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With your Type-Specific Course you'll...
Gain deeper understanding of
yourselves and one another.
You’ll discover how your unique personality Types and Core Motivations drive each of your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Master healthy communication dynamics.
Uncover each of your communication styles and tendencies when you’re doing well and when you’re struggling. You’ll learn to improve the way you communicate with your partner, so you each feel heard and understood.
Foster a culture of compassion in your home.
Learn how to exercise more balance, self-control, and grace in your daily interactions. Turn hot-button arguments into balanced and productive conversations.
Get conflict resolution strategies customized to your personalities.
Understanding how your significant other ticks is a game-changer when it comes to preventing or reconciling marital issues, from the tiniest everyday aggravations to the deepest of relationship wounds.
Experience transformative growth and relational breakthroughs.
Learn to avoid unhealthy patterns and misunderstandings before they become significant issues in your marriage.
Fuel your relational intimacy and joy.
Build a culture of mutual respect, compassion, and connection in your home as you learn to affirm, support, and point one another back to Christ.
What's inside
You’ll get the value you’d receive from reading countless self-help books, listening to marriage-focused podcasts, or attending regular couples therapy in just 8 digestible video coaching sessions. You can complete them together or separately at your own pace, from the comfort of your own home.
8 Type-Specific
Coaching Sessions
Our Story + The Enneagram
Your Enneagram Types
Your Relationship Dance
The Gospel
Your Family of Origin
Your Communication Styles
Your Conflict Styles
Becoming Us
Coaching Session 1: Our Story & The Enneagram
We share our "Becoming Us" journey from broken to beautifully connected using the truth of the Gospel and the tool of the Enneagram. We simplify the Enneagram so you can use it to truly understand yourself, one another, and how it can work for you in your daily life and relationship. You’ll learn how to get back in alignment with the truth of the Gospel when you start to fall back into familiar, unhealthy patterns.
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Coaching Session 2: Your Enneagram Types
It’s time to dive deep into each partner’s intricate personality. You'll uncover each Type's Core Motivations, so you can really understand why you both think, feel, and interact in particular ways. Then, you'll uncover when and how you’ve looked in the wrong places to get your core needs met, and where to look instead.Â
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Coaching Session 3: The Dance
Changing your specific relationship dynamics, aka your "Dance" is the key to transforming your marriage. You'll uncover the unhealthy dances specific to your two Types, and how to transform them into the thriving dynamics your hearts crave. This is our most-referenced session!
Coaching Session 4: The Gospel
We’ll show you how to bring Gospel messages to the center of your relationship, so feelings of peace and intimacy can blossom in your marriage. This allows your connection with your spouse to grow and your passion to reignite.Â
Coaching Session 5: Family of Origin
You and your spouse have different expectations of what marriage should look like based on your backgrounds and childhood messages. In this session, you'll uncover how you interpreted those past messages through the lens of your Enneagram Type and how they are impacting your relationship today. You'll learn a simple acronym to combat unhealthy patterns and bring you back to your true identity in Christ.Â
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Coaching Session 6: Communication Styles
You'll learn specific communications that work for your Enneagram Types, so you each feel heard, valued, and more deeply connected. As you learn how to better communicate with one another, you'll align your hearts and feel more understanding and love than ever before in your marriage.
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Coaching Session 7: Conflict Styles
Learn how each of your Enneagram Types approach conflict so you can learn to fight well, with no more silent treatments, blow ups, and wounding words you can’t take back. We’ll equip you with Type-specific strategies for approaching your spouse when disagreements surface, and how to resolve issues in a constructive way.Â
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Coaching Session 8: Becoming Us
Discover the secrets to regularly connecting, both emotionally and spiritually, with your spouse as you live out the big dreams you have for your marriage, family, and circle of influence. You'll discover how to love, affirm and support each other in ways that will make each of your hearts come alive. In this session, you’ll take all the Enneagram and Gospel knowledge you’ve acquired throughout the course to create a thriving relationship that inspires you and others and fulfills God's purpose for your marriage.
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Personalized Workbook Tailored for Your Types
Your course includes a 64-page printable guide. It's
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You'll Also Get Access To 5 Incredible Bonuses to Help You Accelerate Your Relationship Growth
"From Confrontation to Caring" Communication Formula
Use this simple 4-step formula to improve your communication dynamics. When you and your partner feel truly understood, seen, and heard, you’ll be able to grow into the best versions of yourselves.
A Resource on How to Fight Well
With this bonus, you’ll uncover exactly how to repair and recover after a conflict with your spouse. You’ll learn what forgiveness really is and isn’t, and receive a 5-step blueprint for moving forward so you and your spouse can restore peace.
Discovering You Online Course
Dive deeper into the Enneagram with our Discovering You course (regularly $49). This curriculum will help you confirm your Type and use that knowledge to uncover how to live your best life and best marriage.
Enneagram Enhanced Parenting Plan
How does your Enneagram Type affect your parenting? You’ll gain valuable insights on the positive things you bring to your children along with some “room for growth” areas to be mindful of when parenting.
You’ll also get a series of questions to help you narrow in on your child’s possible Enneagram Type and learn to parent with more patience and compassion.
Swift Success
Strategy
Strategy
You’ll uncover strategies for strengthening your marriage including how to manage your schedules so you can complete the coaching sessions together, ways to apply the lessons long-term, and how to stay accountable to the goals you’ve set together.
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If for any reason at all you're not completely satisfied, get in touch with our team and we will give you a complete refund. It's that simple.
Frequently Asked Questions
Each video session is between 5 and 25 minutes. They are designed to prompt “dates” with your spouse that are about an hour long. Detailed suggestions to facilitate these conversations are included in the Swift Success Strategy bonus.
While we would love for you to watch the video sessions together, we understand that's not always possible. Even if you watch the video sessions alone, it can make a big impact on your marriage. If your spouse isn't ready to take the course with you, don't let that stop you from taking positive action toward the relationship growth you desire!
You can encourage your partner to take our free test to find out their Type by clicking here. It will only take them 5-10 minutes to complete.
Also, if during the videos you discover your spouse is a different Type, simply email our support and let them know your spouse’s correct Type and we’ll do a one-time exchange to get you the right course!
The video sessions are delivered online so you can access them anytime.
We also have downloadable resources to help you move through and understand the content, as well as transcripts for every session so that you can watch or read!
In just a few short sessions, you will gain a deeper understanding of yourselves and one another. You’ll then discover a direct path to healthy and productive communication and conflict resolution in your marriage. You’ll be equipped with knowledge and strategies for better supporting, caring, and pointing one another back to the truth of the Gospel and your true identities in Christ.
Given the new tools and techniques you learn, you'll notice a change in yourselves and your relationship dynamics.
You'll react and respond to one another with more grace and compassion.
Soon, those conversations that used to turn into fights are calm and respectful discussions.
You'll feel heard and understood instead of hurt and confused.
And That's How Your Marriage is Transformed!